Showing posts with label Birthstory. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Birthstory. Show all posts

Sunday, September 9, 1984

Baby Books and a Chris Questionnaire



Here on the blog, I've tried to capture the birth stories of the Westra siblings (Shane and Derek ... I'm still working on it!)  I had Mom write up her memories from each birth. There are pictures in Dropbox. We have the little DMarie time-capsule. I had MY baby book, and it had some good details, so I wondered where the other baby books were. I had Wendy look for hers, but she couldn't find it. Turns out, Mom and Dad still had all the baby books for everyone besides me (even Dad/Lamar's baby book! They made baby books back then?) So now armed with more memorabilia and information, I'll have to update Scott and Wendy's birth blogposts, and/or make a new post to address the childhood years (I did add a little to "Chris Came"). You can see in the image below, that there were extras included and saved along the way. Cards, photos, birth certificate and immunization records.


In Chris's collection, I found pages of text, written by both Mom and Dad in September of 1984. It appears that Chris had a school assignment to write about his birth. While I didn't find a copy of the actual questionnaire included, both Dad and Mom followed the same format, so I can imagine what the original looked like. It was quite comprehensive, and Mom and Dad really came through with their answers (with a little help from the baby book).   

Rather than scanning stuff, I went ahead and retyped (Google Drive links below), and while it is all about Chris, I really enjoyed reading about it all.  It was interesting to see how differently Mom and Dad answered the same questions. Dad's crazy humor! How much more Mom remembered for this write-up, vs the little one she did recently for me (36 years later, and not glancing through the baby book for memory prompts).  Lesson ... write things down sooner than later! Now I need Chris's completed paper for closure here!

Chris Questionaire - Mom

What would Mom and Dad's answers be about the other kids?
What would you (as the parent) write up about your own kids?
Did you keep a baby book for your kids?

Wednesday, May 5, 1982

A Derek Delivery

On Wednesday, May 5th 1982, the expectant parents went to St. Marks Hospital in Salt Lake at 7:00 in the morning. Labor was induced at 8:30 a.m. and it lasted eight hours. Derek was born at 4:08 p.m. He weighed 6 pounds 9½ ounces and was 19½ inches long. He needed to stay under the lights for jaundice.

I asked Mom to write up her memories about each of the kids births for this blog (2020): Because of our experience with Cory, I had to go into the hospital at least a couple times when he was nearer to term. They would hook me up with an IV with Pitocin (?) I think and induce labor and track it for a while to see how my body was handling it. It took a few hours. Then my doctor wanted to induce me a couple weeks early, since that was the point when Cory had died. So I remember us going to the hospital early in the morning for them to induce labor. I had heard that induced labors take longer, especially done that early, before your body is quite ready, so he wasn't born until about 6 p.m. that evening. 6 lbs. something. I had my first epidural with him. They didn't do routine ultrasounds back then, like they do now. But I chose to have one and to have the amniocentesis procedure done. It is not without risk, but I really needed the peace of mind it could bring. If there had been a problem with the baby, we would not have aborted anyway, but chances were high that all would be normal, so I could relax a little more with the pregnancy. So I think Derek is the only one of our 8 where we knew the sex before our baby was born.

On one of the pages of the baby book, Dad wrote up some of the expense totals for the time ...
  • Margie/Dr.Brown(OB) $685
  • Margie/St.Marks (Hospital) $1056
  • Margie/Dr.Morris (Anesthesiologist?) $346.50
  • Derek/St.Marks (Hospital) $525.10
  • Derek/Dr.Carr (Pediatrician) $130
  • Derek/X-Ray $6.50
Total costs charged $2749.10 (no notation of what insurance covered and what was out of pocket).
It would be interesting to have the medical bills from all the births to compare ...
and to compare to the costs when the Westra kids had their babies, and to today!

There was a page in the baby book with all of the siblings holding baby Derek ... sans Jen! Where was the picture of me holding the baby? I KNEW it existed. I guess I had taken the picture for my personal photo album (but Wendy has her photo in her album too, we usually got double prints). These had not been in the Dropbox folder for the year (until now) so I wonder if there are still some negatives out there that didn't get converted with the rest. There are a LOT of photos of baby Derek (the folks hadn't gotten around to taking pictures with baby Kellie and didn't have any of Cory, and I'm sure that played a part in the plethora of pictures now). 

More notes from the baby book ...
  • Likes to sleep on tummy
  • Not good in infant seat for very long at all. 
  • Sleeps good at night, but not great during the day, just small cat naps
  • Sucks his two middle fingers of his right hand
  • Blessed June 6th, 1982
There is a "Gifts and Goodies" list in Dropbox, a scan of the "births" section from the newspaper (they give the home address of the families ... that would not be acceptable in today's society!) and a couple other snapshots and memorabilia. There was also another blog post about Derek Memories on his last birthday. 

Here's the DMarie TimeCapsule


Monday, April 30, 1979

Kellie and Cory

Among the Westra siblings, there are two angel babies ... Kellie Sue and Cory Matthew. Kellie was just eight days old when she passed away, and Cory died in utero, just shortly before his due date. There weren't a lot of pictures of Kellie (and none of Cory) ... in Mom/Margie's history, she stated "She was such a beautiful baby, prettier every day--so each day I thought, tomorrow we'll get some pictures taken." Scott (age 15) had taken a picture of her through the glass at the hospital, there was the hospital photo (which Mom didn't care for) and a nurse took a couple polaroids when she was at Primary Children's. 

You can read the full history here ... History of Kellie Sue Westra
It's also in the family Dropbox (Word and PDF)


The next year, Mom/Margie was pregnant again. "I wish I could find the history I wrote up after his birth. He died in utero 2 weeks before his due date. I went to doctor visits alone with all our kids, so had to deal with the news alone. I hadn't felt him move for a day or so, so I was worried when I went in that day to the doctor. The doctor put some seaweed type stuff in, as I remember, that helps to soften your cervix to prepare your body to deliver, so you don't have to carry the baby longer before giving birth naturally. Then they induce labor the next day I think. He weighed 5 lbs. and was born in the labor room with just LaMar and I there. LaMar had to go find a nurse and tell her the baby had been born. We hadn't thought to take a camera and they didn't have one, so we don't have any pictures of him. I think hospitals have cameras now and are better prepared for those circumstances. They put me in a room as far away from the nursery as possible, so as to not hear the babies cry and see them delivered to the moms for feedings. We already had a friend birthday party scheduled for Jeni, so Dad handled that alone. The hospital brought me a little birthday cake since I was there on my birthday. They said there was a heart problem with Cory, but not bad enough to have caused his death, so they didn't really know why it happened."




From Mom/Margie: When Kellie died on April 25, 1979, Heidi Lindsay in our ward went to the cemetery and gathered flowers that were there from the burial and created this nice framed arrangement from them. I think she brought it over to us on Memorial Day. Such a thoughtful surprise.



When Cory was buried after he was born on Nov. 5, 1980, we gathered flowers and hired Beth Crook in the ward to make one as a remembrance of him. Beth did a beautiful job and would not accept any payment. The larger one is Kellie's and the smaller one is Cory's. Kellie's could be displayed in different directions--I don't know which is correct. I always thought if we had a wall group of the other kid's photos, we would have these for two we lost.


Monday, May 3, 1976

Shane Shows Up



Mom's Memories (written in 2020): We were back in Salt Lake. I chose the St. Mark's hospital since I wanted a private room, albeit, they were very small rooms. Then I chose a doctor who delivered there. He was probably a good doctor, but had a very poor bedside manner. The doctor visits consisted on his saying, "Any questions? See you next time." With Shane's birth, it was the only time I was told by a doctor at one of the last visits, that I would probably come early. Then he was 16 days later than his due date! It just started to feel unreal, like this baby would never be born! He was 8 lbs. 12 oz. Our biggest baby.

From the baby book:
  • It was Monday, May 3, 1976. 6:10 a.m.
  • 8 pounds 12 ounces, 22 inches
  • Dr. W. Adams
  • Dad's Notes: Our new baby was scheduled to arrive 17 April 1976 but was 16 days late. Finally, early in the morning of 3 May, 1976 at about 12:30 a.m, Baby Shane decided to let his mother know he was ready. Bags had been packed for weeks, so his mother showered, his father called Grandma Burgener, and Mom and Dad left for the hospital in the little yellow-orange Vega. Arrangements had already been made with the new St. Mark's hospital at 13th East and 39th South, about a 10-minute drive. Shane didn't seem to be in a big hurry, so we took our time, arrived at the emergency entrance to the hospital, took the long walk to the elevators, and went up to the 2nd floor, past the nursery. It took us about 10 minutes to roust up a nurse, but we finally made contact. Margie changed into hospital wear and got into a bed for tests, hooked to a monitoring machine, and a long wait. Dad went back down to officially check-in at 3:05 a.m. Dad was quite queasy after the birth, and had to leave for a few minutes. Grandma Burgener came to stay with the children while we were at the hospital. Dad came home in time to get the kids off to school, and then hit the sack for a few hours to try to make up for lost sleep the previous night. Dad stayed home from work that day. They next day he took his "cigars" (tootsie rolls packed in a cigar box) and passed them out at work.
  • Mom's Notes: Shane was born at 6:10 a.m. The cord was around his neck and he was very blue. We were quite frightened as it seemed to take several minutes to get him crying. His color improved rapidly after that. LaMar was with me all during labor and birth (for the first time). We called the kids and told them about their new brother before they went to school. 
  • Shane slept through the night the day he was one week old. He slept through the night most nights after that.
  • Shane loved the pacifier, starting his first night home. He seldom went to sleep without it.
  • June 6, 1976. Shane was blessed by his Dad in the Cottonwood 11th ward. Wendy was confirmed the same day. After the meeting, we had a nice family dinner at the house. Both grandparents came, and Aunt Lorrie, and cousins Jason and Katie (Merrill was out-of-town - Shane shares this birthday with Uncle Merrill).  
  • Shane started smiling a little and making a few "goos" and gurgles at four weeks. He laughed a little at one month. He rolled from his stomach to his back on June 3, when he was one month old. He rolled from his back to his stomach just before four months. 
  • At six-weeks, the doctor (Dr. Steven Carr) discovered that Shane's feet turned in too much. He recommended a bar to force his feet outward and even loaned one that his children had used. At five months the special shoes/bar didn't have to be worn anymore. 
  • September 25, 1976 the whole family went to Lagoon on a special, $12 per car. Grandma Burgener and Karen also came. This was Shane's first big outing (4½ months old). He had his little hand stamped along with all the rest of the family. He was very good, pushed around in his stroller the whole time.  
Very glad to have all this information recorded in the baby book (and now the blog!)
Here's a little peek at the baby book, and some of the other saved mementos.



As with the other "birth stories" I'll include the captured DMarie TimeCapsule ...

... there was something similar typed up and given out at the hospital

Tuesday, November 10, 1970

Jenny Joins the Family

Just an interesting note ... here on Google's Blogspot, posts can be backdated, but the furthest back you can go is ... (drumroll please) 1970! Will I backdate this all the way to 1970? We shall see :) 1970 is when all the important stuff really started! The birth of Jennifer Lynn Westra.

Jenny was about 8 days late, so my parents went ahead and came to Richland, thinking surely she would be born any day. It was almost time for them to go back home before she was finally born. It was the middle of the night when we went to the hospital, so we didn't even wake my parents to tell them we were leaving, and they would be there to tend our 3 kids. Back then, new mothers stayed in the hospital a little longer. 2 or 3 nights? But since my parents had to leave and I wanted them to be able to hold her lots, I came home early, after maybe 1 night. So this was my hardest birth emotionally afterwards, coming home to 3 little kids, plus the baby. My parents left in about one day. And I really didn't get the help I needed being away from family and all. I don't think either Dad nor I really knew what to expect in the way of needing help after having babies. So he would come home from work and go out in the yard to work til dark. Born Tuesday at 2:35 am (the other three had all been born on a Monday). I have already written about Kadlec Methodist Hospital. 3 to a room. Get out and crank up your own bed. A young girl smoker in the middle bed--another reason to go home early. 6 lbs. 10 oz. 20 inches.
Information from the baby book ... 
  • Room 413B
  • Dr. Robert E. Chase (Dr. Gard also listed)
  • Looks like - Mom/Chris
  • Eyes - Blue, Hair - Light Brown
  • First Smile - 4 weeks
  • Slept through the night at five weeks.
  • Crawled at six months
  • Walked at 11 months


Saturday, August 29, 1970

Welcome Wendy!

When Wendy was at Snow College, age 18, she took a class that required the students to write up an autobiography. Here's what Wendy wrote (based on her baby book and interviews with Mom) ...
It was 8:15 on a Monday morning when a miraculous event took place on earth. I, Wendy Westra, was born on April 29, 1968. My parents were excited to have a girl after having two boys and had had my name picked out for five years simply waiting for me to arrive. At eight pounds I outweighed both my older brothers. The nurses fussed over my long dark hair and formed little curls on the top of my head. The first night home I very considerately slept the whole night through. I have loved sleeping from the day I was born! At six months I was a very active baby. I turned over and over, got around in my walker, and started crawling. At ten months I stood up for the first time. My first words were “Mama” and “Dada.” I became very attached to a pink thermal blanket and wouldn’t sleep unless I was holding on to it tightly. By the time I was 19 months old, I had been on five round trips by airplane. I haven’t been on one since, and have always wanted to. At age 1 ½ to 2 I began to take all my stuffed animals to bed with me. Luckily now I only take one stuffed animal to bed!

Mom added some memories ...  Since Chris's labor and birth was so long, I stayed home too long with Wendy and was only at the hospital a half-hour! She was my quickest birth and weighed 8 lbs. I remember being out in the sunshine planting a flower bed at our new St. Street home the day before she was born, outside the sliding glass window area of our family room. Born on a Monday. Never missed a week of church.  Regarding Wendy sleeping through that first night home ...when I woke up the next morning and realized that she had not woke me up in the night, I panicked, thinking crib death, and rushed to her room, so relieved to find her alive and peacefully sleeping! Regarding the plane trips; in 1969 we were flying to California (my first time in a plane) for the 2-3 month assignment for Dad's work, a flight to visit Nelva's family in California, and our flight home from California back to Richland. I hadn't even remembered that we flew to Nelva's and back, while we were stationed in Calif. until you girls were working on this project (it was written in Dad's history of that year). Must have been quicker and cheaper to fly and allowed us to have more time with them.



From Wendy's Baby Book ...
  • Blessed on June 2, 1968. Grandma Westra came from SLC for the blessing.
  • Became very attached to a pink thermal blanket and wouldn't go to sleep without it (6 months to 18 months). 
  • At 18 months, wanted to take ALL dolls and stuffed animals to bed.
  • Gave up the bottle at 20 months old. 
  • First words:  Mama, Dada
  • Had been on five round trip airplane flights in the first 19 months.
  • First two teeth at 7 months old. 3rd tooth not until 13 months. First dental visit at 3½ years old. First cavity at 6½. 





Originally - I hadn't found this "on this day" report for Wendy, so I Googled to see if I could find something similar. Then I located this file, but thought I'd include some of the other interesting facts I'd found from the year.
  • 1968 was the year that the first episode of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood aired, providing a stable, warm cultural icon for generations of children. This was also the year that Planet of the Apes, starring Charlton Heston, was released in theatres. And one of the great bands of the 20th century, Led Zeppelin, performed live for the first time in October of this year. In another more mild development, Yale University announced this year that women would be admitted to the university, making it a coeducational institution.
  • This year was also an important one for space exploration. 1968 saw the United States launch Apollo 7, the first manned Apollo mission and an important step toward the Moon landing. Apollo 8 followed not long after, when Astronauts Frank Borman, James Lovell, and William A. Anders orbited the Moon. These men were the first human beings to see the far side of the Moon.
  • 1968 will be mostly remembered, though, for the death of two major political figures in the United States: Martin Luther King, Jr. and Robert F. Kennedy. Martin Luther King, a major civil rights leader in the United States, was murdered at The Lorraine Motel in Memphis, Tennessee on April 4th. In addition to mourning across America, King’s murder sparked a great deal of civil unrest in an already tense environment. Robert F. Kennedy, brother of assassinated president John F. Kennedy, was a U.S. Senator from New York and was a presidential candidate in the Democrat Party. While campaigning for his party’s nomination in Los Angeles, California, Kennedy was shot on the evening of June 5th. He succumbed to his wounds on June 6th.

Friday, June 5, 1970

Chris Came ...


Three years after Scott came into the world, he was blessed with a little brother ~ Christopher Mark Westra. 6 pounds, 7½ ounces, 19¼ inches long. Born at 11:42 am. You might wonder why there is a picture of Dad with a fish combined in the collage of photos of baby Chris, but it's because while the grandparents were up to see the babyRex and LaMar went fishing on the Columbia River and caught a steelhead that weighed more than Chris did!


Here's some of Mom's memories from the big day ...
Since Scott's labor was only maybe around 4 hours, I expected Chris to be even quicker. So we went to the hospital and I was dilated only to 3 and they sent me home. I was in labor all night with the pains 5 minutes apart and scared I would wait too long, but didn't want to be sent home again.  When I was admitted, I remember being in the delivery room and the pain was so bad, they gave me gas and put me "under" for a bit. When I regained consciousness, I recall thinking "somebody is screaming," then  realizing "Oh, it is me screaming...."  Chris was born on a Monday and I never missed a week of church. September 5th was Labor Day in 1966. The Labor and Delivery dept. was very overcrowded that day and there was no room to put me in after he was born, so my bed was just out in the hallway. I was sitting up and a nurse came by and said, "You shouldn't be sitting up!" She thought I hadn't had the baby yet and was in labor. Chris's was my hardest and longest birth, which surprised me because he wasn't that big.

Some memories from the baby book ...
  • Dr. Robert E Chase. Nurse Beulah Liechty. 
  • Kadlec Methodist Hospital/Richland, Washington. Room 419C. Receipt for payment $208.20, another for $2.00.
  • Hair was dark brown at birth, lighter later on, very sparse on top, one inch in back.
  •  Blessed October 9, 1966 in Richland 1st ward. When Chris was held up after the blessing, he spit up at the congregation. Two other babies blessed that day.
  • Very spitty baby (more than any of the other kids). Had to have a burp diaper on every chair around the house to grab quick when needed.
  • Red birthmark on the forehead.
  • Sleeping through the night at three months. Started sucking thumb, would not take pacifier.
  • Swaying and dancing to music at 15 months. 
  • First words: Mama, Dada, Ball, Dog-Dog, Marble, Night-night. His speech was very cute when he was a bit older (age 3) as there were several letters he couldn't pronounce (s, r). 
  • First flight - to SLC Dec 1968 for Merrill's wedding. Chris got sick on the flight down. 
  • Loved the water - summer of 1967 (8-12 months old) he spent more time in the wading pool than Scott. Learned to walk in the pool!
  • Illnesses - Roseola at 6 months old (March1967), Mumps (June 1970). 
  • Noted Events: The war in Vietnam. The popularity of the Beatles. Fashion trends - long hair on boys, miniskirts, granny dresses, the twist (dance).


Here's a little look at what else was going on in the world in September 1966 ...

 I just paid $1.09 for a dozen eggs in 2020 ... no inflation for eggs?

Check out the blog post "Baby Books and a Chris Questionnaire" for more memories of baby Chris!

Monday, March 16, 1970

1963 - Move to Richland and Welcome Baby Scottie

1963 is called "the year that changed the world" by some. There was the historic March on Washington, Martin Luther King's "I have a dream" speech, and the early involvement of the U.S. in the Vietnam War. Beatlemania had started up. Then, on Nov. 22, the assassination of President John F. Kennedy. On a more "Westra" note ... 1963 was the year the young Westra couple left Utah for Washington, and added their first baby to the family! LaMar turned 26 on May 28, 1963. Margie turned 21 on Nov. 7, 1963. Scott was born on Monday, Dec. 16, 1963.


In the Spring, Dad/Lamar was interviewing for a new job. 
Here's memories from both Dad and Mom:
From Dad: I started interviewing different companies for a job. There were three main possibilities: IBM in SLC, 14 March. Shell Oil in San Francisco, and Marathon Oil in Denver. In the summer of 1963, I went on two interview trips. One was by myself, flying to Denver, Colorado to interview Marathon Oil, and then Margie and I drove to San Francisco to interview Shell Oil Company. Then we accepted a job offer from General Electric in Richland, Washington, one of the three cities making up the Tri Cities. We moved to Richland, Washington on our first anniversary: 29 June 1963. We moved into a little house in Richland Village, 2031 Rainier. The house was on the corner. It had two bedrooms and a basement and a detached garage. We paid $79 a month for rent. 
 From Mom: Around the time of our first wedding anniversary, we moved to Richland, Washington. LaMar had 3 job offers, one in California, one in Denver, and the one in Richland. He visited Denver to interview, we both made the trip to California to interview----then accepted the Richland job offer from General Electric without even visiting there. I was 3 months pregnant with Scott. It was difficult to find a place to rent. Apartment complexes didn’t want people with children or expecting one. We finally found an old house to rent on Rainier Street. LaMar had to start work, so I had to spend the days in the empty house, waiting for the moving truck to arrive. I had morning sickness and ate barbecue-flavor potato chips while waiting at the house----I haven’t been able to stand them for the next 50 years! We had some nice young couples as neighbors and enjoyed life there. LaMar was a stake missionary and took classes a couple times a week, so I got tired of being alone a lot. I joined a ladies bowling league as I needed to get out of the house. Bowling Tuesdays.
The house (taken a few years later/Chris in the window)

It's always interesting to see how the different write-ups compare *Ü* What details are written down. Here's a little more from Mom and Dad, and more about Scott's birth:

From Dad: 22 Nov 1963 – President John F. Kennedy was assassinated. I was working in the plant, and everyone was in shock. Scott Edward Westra was born: on Monday, Dec. 16, 1963, 12:50 AM. Scottie was born in Kadlec Memorial Hospital, which had been built years before by the government. Margie and Scottie came home from the hospital, Friday, 20 Dec. Christmas 1963 We bought a Christmas Tree, 11 Dec, $4.

From Mom: Scott was born on Monday, Dec. 16, 1963, just before midnight, at the Kadlec Methodist Hospital. It was an old military hospital, all on one floor, with many wings. 3 women in a room. You had to get out of bed and go to the bottom of the bed and use a crank to raise or lower the bed. They didn't do epidurals in Washington--they were behind the times. The husbands couldn't even be in the labor or delivery rooms! I hated being alone in labor and in pain. I remember when the doctor told me "It won't get any worse than this" at one point. He lied! It was a fast labor and delivery. They had to wake LaMar up in the waiting room to tell him he had a son! I remember the ride home from the hospital, feeling scared that this little helpless baby was up to me to care for. My parents came up for a visit after he was born. After they returned to Salt Lake, I developed a fever and weakness on my left side and was re-hospitalized. They did a spinal tap, etc. to check for meningitis, etc. Our pediatrician arranged for baby Scott to be admitted also, so I could nurse him, and so LaMar didn’t have to care for him. The doctor put the bump on Scott’s ear as the reason for the hospital admittance. I had a couple more episodes of the fever and weakness over the next few months and my doctor had me go to a neurologist in Seattle. I was never really diagnosed—just “an inflammation of the brain.” It hasn't reoccurred but has left me with a slight weakness on my left side.




Mom wrote that "Christmas was just a blur for me in 1963, having a baby and all and going back to the hospital." Years later, Jen would have a similar situation with a December baby (Colton) and rehospitalization a week later (but it was baby Colton being admitted ... no excuse needed to let Mom stay, and Dad/Gray was in charge of taking care of four little boys at home!)

Adding to this post with a few finds from the baby book ...

Mom/Margie had mentioned in her memory that Scott was born just before midnight, but in the baby book, 12:50 am is listed as the time. Weight was recorded as 7 pounds 1½ ounces, but noted that it dropped to 6 pounds 14 ounces while in the hospital, and was 7 pounds 3 ounces at discharge. Length was 19½ inches and head circumference was 13½ inches. Not much hair. The baby book kept a very good history of weight and height over the coming years. There will be more to come in another post showcasing Scott!